Marriage-- lol, the scarlet letter?

[RebeccaInGA]

My marriage didn't last long.. I lost out to the internet of all things. Talking on AOL was way more important than his wife and child.

Anyway, I have met another man, after 3 years and I am excited, yet scared out of my mind! I don't want to be opposed to marriage, but knowing how terrible the first one went, naturally I am scared!

Anyone out there have a few words of wisdom? I don't doubt that I am in love with him, I just don't want to get disappointed again.

[Gaby Gurl]

I think that if you love him, then you will know if it will be worth getting married to him. I know how you feel,i have felt the same way about people, but you have to have faith that you won't get hurt again. Not every guy is the one you were first married to,you or your love should not have to suffer for what somebody else did. So take a chance and try it with this guy unless you think that it isn't going to work, Give YOURSELF another chance,someday,maybe sooner than later, it will be worth it;

[blue332]

I agree with gaby gurl. Just don't rush into anything, make sure you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him before you commit to marriage. but i too think that you will know if he's the one for you. it's unfortunate that marriages fall apart and people get hurt, but i think there's more than one chance out there for you! Just because the first one wasn't right, doesn't mean the second one isn't! Have faith and trust in him if you love him and believe in him!!

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[dacia]

Hey girl listen you can't use one bad apple to judge the rest. If you find one bad apple in your basket just throw it out chances are there are a few good ones still in there. if you love this man I say you should go for it. Not all men out there have the same qualities, and women usually goes for the man with the qualities they want and not the man with the qualities to love. We should learn to accept more and not just accept what we want. We should not just give and expect them to give as well, we should learn to give and take. Trust me girl I have dealt with a lot of weddings and give marriage counseling to know this. What it really boils down to is just to follow where your heart leads you. If this man is not for you, your heart will tell you and if he is yours then you will surely know.