What grievances do you carry?

[DivaVillage]

Eckhart Tolle explains that when we have hurt feelings and hold grudges, that is the ego.

What are the grievances (family, religious) that you allow yourself to carry?

[fashionlove]

that's an excellent question...

I think I carry grievances against others who have hurt me in the past. If I forget about what they did, I feel as though I am saying it is ok that they did it. Here is the perfect example of my ego getting in the way - it won't allow me to forgive because then I would no longer be better than that person who hurt me. I love how he talks about Jesus saying to forgive your enemies and how forgiving is freeing.

it's so true when you think about it.

[Jessica]

I have a lot of these grievances, with family, friends, old work situations. I am aware of it though and I know it is time that will take the ego out of it. I try so hard to pull my ego out and forgive, but I first have to forgive myself and that takes a lot of nurturing and pattern changes, above all patients.

[Monkie0317]

it's easier to hold grudges than it is to let go. when i think of an old grudge, i know in my heart that i don't have a reason to be angry anymore, but letting go of the grudge requires going deeper, soul searching if you will, and therefore i push it aside and the feelings of resentment still live in me, for no particular reason.

it feels good to forgive. like they say, "forgive but never forget" - i think this phrase is misused, misinterpreted. people say that they forgive but still hold the grudge, which is deceptive. when people do that in relationships it is the ego that is deceiving the person, because it doesn't want to let go of being "the victim"