HOW TO MAKE HIM YOURS
10 Tricks to Learn How to Make Him Yours
That said, there are a few little tricks you can do to make the man you like spend a little more time with you, and the more time you spend together gives the object of your desire more motivation and inspiration to realize that you are indeed the woman he cannot live without.
10 TRICKS TO MAKE HIM YOURS
First make sure that you really want to be the woman he cannot live without, and then try these ten tricks to make him yours. If he is not wrapped around your pinkie after #10, it is time to move on and find a guy who is just that into you:
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #1: Be a success, or be on your way to success, even if you are still at step one. Have goals and a brilliant life stretched out before you, an amazing array of experiences to which a man is just the cherry on top. No one wants the pressure of being completely responsible for another person’s happiness or goals in life, and many women fall into the trap of thinking the right man will cure everything wrong in her life. Today both men and women are looking for a partner to share their life experiences with, and no one wants dead weight. To find an amazing partner, you have to be an amazing partner.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #2: Give him physical attention, from a rub on the shoulder to a pat on the arm to a long, lingering kiss. Guys measure emotional closeness by physical intimacy; never go beyond your boundaries but appreciate that he will respond to a loving touch.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #3: Did he leave a shirt at your place? Rub it on the back of your neck before you return it. Smell is one of the biggest aphrodisiacs in existence and your pheromones are powerful stuff, so use them! This also works on his pillow - but with any luck you have already been rubbing your head around his pillow quite a bit.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #4: Be confident. Confidence is the biggest turn-on in the world, after pheromones. If you don’t think you are the bomb.com, then why should he? No one is 100% confident all the time, so when your insecurities flare up and you are feeling less than stellar, do what all majorly confident people in the world do: fake it, baby. In time, your act of confidence will become real.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #5: Flirt with him, A LOT. Flirting with a guy entails three things: flattery, eye contact, and physical touching. You can handle that, right? Look him in the eyes, touch his arm lightly with your hand, and say, “I love your _______.” Men respond most to compliments about their skill and prowess so skip flattering his outfit and instead go for his excellent musical taste or ability to drive a motorcycle.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #6: Flirt with other guys, a little. Men don’t want their woman to be easy, but they do like to show you off and see that other guys find you attractive. And you need to show him that there are plenty of fish in the sea that would be glad to take his place should you desire.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #7: Resist the urge to discuss the relationship with him. It is what it is; let it be. Women bond with other women by talking, and we often assume men are the same way and that perhaps a lack of chitchat means a lack of closeness. This is not true. If you want to bond with your man, please see tip #2; men bond with women not through talking but by physical intimacy (shocker).
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #8: Ignore him, but just a little bit. Although this smacks of game playing, no one can deny that we all want what we can’t have. If you answer every time he calls and meet him every time he asks, there is no challenge. Humans, and males in particular, love the competition of a challenge, so give him what he wants.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #9: Do not be jealous and catty towards other women. Ever. It is a waste of time and energy. There will always be someone prettier, younger, smarter and funnier than you that your man would like to have sex with. But they’re not you; you are unique and special. So get over your insecurities and in the meantime, resolve not to talk trash about other females.
MAKE HIM YOURS TRICK #1: Be real. After all these tips, the most important thing you can be is yourself. Women spend hours and hours using props like padded bras, dark mascara and high heels to make ourselves more attractive. You don’t necessarily have to put down the lipstick and back away slowly, but you do need to realize that these tricks are exactly that - tricks that enhance your natural gifts. Any man who is worth your time will like you for who you are. Besides, if your plan goes well and you make him yours, then that padded bra, mascara and heels are going to come off eventually and you will stand there in front of him, two flawed humans who want very much the same things in life. Remember: the real, imperfect you is much better than a fake, perfect you any day of the week. The right man will follow.
Shilo Urban is a freelance writer who has just relocated to Los Angeles after her previous homes of Seattle, New Zealand, Paris, Maine, and Austin. She is an active member of the West Coast electronic music community and lives to promote the art that she loves and the people who create it.