CHILDHOOD INSECURITIES Get Rid of your Childhood Insecurities by Giving Yourself the Love and Attention You Deserve! |  | Have you ever had an intense emotional reaction to something and thought “Where did that come from?” Is there a pattern you keep repeating with the type of relationships or people you consistently attract into your life? If you can relate to either or both of these scenarios, it's more than likely that an old memory or ‘story' from your childhood is being triggered, calling out for attention and healing. |
Grow Up With The Help Of Your Inner Child We may be all grown up now, but our inner child still exists within us and is affecting us every day! Unable to deal with the deep hurt, disappointment, pain, sadness, abandonment, betrayal or abuse that often happens during childhood our inner child, taking most of it personally, gradually retreated into her shell where she felt safe. Meanwhile those feelings remain inside us, waiting for the day when we are emotionally mature enough to deal with them. Until we have re-connected to the wounded parts of us that are still 2 or 4 or 6 years old, or even going into our adolescent years, life will continually provide opportunities to bring these parts to our attention. When we catch ourselves repeating a pattern over and over again, this is our inner child's way of doing that. Often she is replaying a story in the hope this time around we can change the ending. We can't change the ending, but we can create a new story for ourselves.
 Attracting the Emotionally Unavailable If you had an emotionally unavailable parent, it is common to attract emotionally unavailable partners. We are trying to get the love, approval, attention, acknowledgement or validation we feel we never got when we were little. We want to feel valued and special. We think maybe we can get someone else to make us feel this way. Sometimes it appears they are doing this for a short while, but in the long-term, more often than not they let us down. This is because it is not someone else's job to provide us with these emotional connections we lacked in childhood. The job of these relationships is to bring our attention to this lack of emotional connection felt by our inner child, so that we can do what we'd do for any child. Love her. Emotionally connect with her, and be there for her. We have to give ourselves everything we feel our mother or father never gave us, including nurturing, unconditional love and support. Sometimes in life, the time comes to be our own parent. Once we have done this then we no longer need to attract people to bring our attention to that particular wound. We can start attracting people who resonate with our newly found emotional wholeness and inner sense of self-love and acceptance, safety and connection. This makes for much healthier relationships and life experiences!
|  Spend Time With Your Inner Child Think of an intense emotional reaction you had recently, a type of person you regularly attract or a relationship pattern you consistently experience. Either in meditation, through journaling or with the help of a therapist, find a time in your childhood when you felt that same way, or experienced this same pattern. This will provide a clue as to the wound that is trying to be acknowledged now. As adults, we know that a physically or emotionally unavailable parent likely had issues of their own that they were dealing with, but as children we didn't know that. We blamed ourselves for every harsh word, every ignored achievement, or lack of full presence. We decided we weren't good enough and not worthy of love and attention. This is not the truth. We are good enough! We are worthy of love and attention! We need to tell our inner child this, especially if no-one else has! What can you tell your inner child, that she needed to hear all those years ago? What can you give your inner child that she needed to receive then? What did you not get from your mother and father that you really needed? Can you tell your inner child that from now on you can give her those things? Ask her: What else do you need? You may be surprised by the simplicity of the crystal clear answers that come. © Dana Mrkich 2007 | See More Lifestyle Tips! | | | | | Also Try... | | | | | | Dana Mrkich is a writer, energy reader and spiritual intuitive. She has provided hundreds of readings to clients all around the world and now specializes in Email Readings, channeling pages of guidance from your guides and higher consciousness. Her first book A New Chapter is due out later this year. For more info, or to subscribe to her newsletter, please email dana@danamrkich.com or visit: www.danamrkich.com |
